Thursday, February 28, 2008

Sew...I have this friend...

I won't name any names, but I've got this friend who will be 32 next month. She's going through life looking for "Mr. Right." There's this guy; we'll call him George, who works in her building. She smiles at George every chance she can get and he smiles back, but he's always walking with the women that he works with so she's yet to strike up a conversation with him. She's been networking to find out more information about him. She found out that he's 27 and she thinks that this is a huge age difference.

I keep trying to tell her that if she were 21 and he was 16 it would be an absurd age difference but at 27 & 32, five years is not that big of a difference. By 27 he's most likley out of college and has quite a few years of living on his own under his belt. It's obvious that he's holding down a job.

I think that she at least has to at least meet him and talk to him to find out more about him before she writes him off. Why live with a "What If?" He might be a very mature 27. I mean heck, she could meet someone who is 32 with the maturity of a 17 year old.

Quilters...what are your thoughts? Does she need a nudge in either direction?

By the way...she dared me to post about this probably thinking I wouldn't do it!!

17 comments:

BitnByAQuiltingBug said...

She dared you? She doesn't know you any better than that? Ok..don't just nudge her...shove her! Of course she needs to check him out. What if she doesn't and he's the ONE for her? And then, the rest of her life she is alone or with the wrong one? Can't have that....Push Jen push! Course this is just my opinion, not worth that much....LOL
Regina

Kristie said...

How cute!!! Of course she needs to do this! She'll never know unless she tries...
Kristie

Deb (vtquilter) said...

She needs to be pushed to him! My hubby is 42 to my 35... age is only a number... he may just be mr right!

Moneik said...

I say go for it! She totally needs to get to know him. I think age is just a matter of a number. You never know what kind of person he is and maybe he's the perfect guy. Maturity is usually more of a determining factor. If she doesn't go for him, I know of a really nice guy in SD whose 30 something and she might be interested in. He's never married and such a nice guy. He's really disappointed I am marrying Paul. And she should know better than to dare you!

Barb said...

My first husband was my same age and the fact that he is my "first husband" should tell you the rest of the story. My forever husband and I married when I was 30 and he was 25. It couldn't have worked out any better. After 20 yrs he is still my best friend. I too was concerned about the age difference but it really made no difference at all in the long run. I now tell people "I got him young and trained him my way!" Seriously, she needs to go for it!

CatQuilter said...

Age should matter little if two people are attracted to each other and happy. Tell you friend to go for it and not to be a person who wonders years from now, "Well, what if I had".

Maureen said...

Mark and I are four years apart..of course I am older and we will leave it at that - our friend nudged us together...otherwise I would have pulled the he's too young card. My brother's wife is 6 years older than him ...they are really happy together. Finally my parents are 12 years apart and you would never guess...my Dad is 75 and my Mom is 63. When my parents met my Mom was 20 and my Dad 32. My parents have been together for almost 41 years. Wow!

NUDGE HER! Age is just a number!

Maureen

P.S. - I would not have dared you...I know better!

jillquilts said...

I don't know - I think the age could be a problem! Maybe she is hesitant to talk to him because it is more fun to admire his yumminess from afar and then wonder what he is like... I think that she should take her time and see if he makes a move or something. :)

jillquilts said...

Oh, yeah! And she should've known better than to dare you! ha ha ha

Moneik said...

Someone just needs a little nudge doesn't she! I'm not naming names, but I think we should all shout out at the same time: GO FOR IT!

Suzan said...

Tell your friend (who I am SURE is not reading this!!) "Nothing ventured, nothing gained".

Words of advice from an old lady...make your move! Time's a wasting!!

Amelia said...

I agree with the adage Suzan posted...of "nothing ventured nothing gained"...go for it. He might be the right one.

Regina said...

Age is nothing - I am putting both my hands virtually behind her shoulders and SHOVING!!!

Sometimes getting to know "about" a person before you get to know the person "in person" can be a bad thing -it can prevent you from opening your heart and mind to get to know them without preconceptions or stereotypes.

Forget what you already know -and take the chance to get to know what is true - straight from the source.

Go for it!!!
I am married to a younger man - and have NEVER regretted it!!!

Michele said...

Yep - at that "advanced" age, 4 years is NOTHING. My baby brother (4 years younger) is engaged to a woman my age.

Gina said...

Go for it, that's what I think. There's a 5 year age gap between my mum and dad and they've been married 45 years this year.
If she waits for a man to become mature then she should give up now. i don't think men ever get mature. My dad is 70 in body and still 18 in his mind
love and hugs xxx

Connie said...

I say GO GIRL GO!!!!! I am 5 years older than my hubby--we married when I was 36 and he was 31 (met when I was 33 and he was 28!!!! sound familiar????) Need I say more?

quiltin cntrygrl said...

Wow!! I think that your friend should go for it too.. and while everyone is out there playing matchmaker.. be on the look out for some one for me.. Smiles

Heather